"We were struggling with jealousy and insecurity, but Tente's guidance helped us understand and overcome these challenges. We now have a deeper understanding of ourselves and each other, and our relationship is thriving!"
Coaching for the conversations that matter
This work is for people who want real progress in intimacy, not vague inspiration. We work on jealousy, desire discrepancies, ethical non-monogamy, erotic communication, and the practical skills that make intense relationships sustainable.
Some clients come before attending a Temple Night. Others come because a new relationship structure, a mismatch in desire, or a power dynamic is already exposing a weak spot. Coaching gives you a private space to slow that down, get honest, and build something workable.
What we work on
Ethical non-monogamy
Opening a relationship without blowing it up, repairing trust after shaky agreements, and learning how to negotiate clearly.
Boundaries & communication
Saying what you want, hearing no without collapse, and turning vague tension into explicit agreements.
Erotic intensity & power dynamics
Building consent skills before you explore stronger edges, whether that leads toward Red Temple, Dark Temple, or a more alive private relationship.
Embodied intimacy
Reconnecting desire, repairing avoidance, and moving from overthinking into felt experience.
How sessions work
Sessions are direct, practical, and tailored to the exact tension you are in. We identify the pattern, pressure-test your assumptions, and leave you with concrete language or practices to use immediately. This is not a performance of spirituality. It is applied relational work.
A typical coaching process starts by clarifying the real problem beneath the story. Sometimes that is jealousy. Sometimes it is poor agreement design, a breakdown in erotic communication, unresolved resentment, or the fact that one partner is moving faster than the other. The goal is not to make everything easier overnight. The goal is to make the next conversations more honest and more skillful.
One-on-one session
€120
60 minutes · Video call available
Intensive session
€300
3 hours · Deep-dive format
Limited new client capacity each month.
Who this coaching is for
This work is for individuals and couples who want support with intimacy, relationship structure, or erotic readiness before things get more complicated. Some clients are opening a relationship and do not want to damage trust. Some are rebuilding after crossed boundaries. Some want help navigating desire mismatch, emotional flooding, or the difference between fantasy and genuine consent.
It is also a strong fit for people who feel drawn to OSL experiences but do not want to guess their way in. If you are unsure whether to start with a White Temple entry point, a public event, or the Silver Key membership path, coaching gives you a private place to work that out before you commit publicly.
Is coaching the right next step?
Clients often arrive asking some version of the same questions: How do we open without destabilising everything? How do I say no without guilt? How do I hear my partner's desire without collapsing into comparison? How do we negotiate sex, power, fantasy, or non-monogamy in a way that leaves both people more honest instead of more defended?
Those questions usually need more than advice. They need structure, language, and a place where complexity can be slowed down. If you are curious about OSL but want to talk through readiness first, coaching is often the cleanest bridge — it can help you decide whether to begin with the White Temple, apply for Silver Key membership, or stay focused on relationship repair before entering a live event space.